Find out what you actually want
Single, partnered, or getting ready to date again. Build a real relationship with your own desire, then practice saying it out loud.
Individual coaching
Somatic sex & intimacy coaching · Boulder, Colorado & online Your body already knows what it wants. Let’s learn its language.
I help people stop performing and start feeling, in their bodies, in bed, and in their relationships. Practical, honest, and never clinical.
Where people often begin
Maybe some of this sounds familiar
- You feel like you’re supposed to just know what turns you on, but nobody ever taught you how to find out.
- So you say yes when you mean maybe, and only realize it later.
- When the conversation turns to intimacy, you freeze, over-explain, or second-guess every word.
- You and your partner (or partners) love each other, and still sex, desire, or closeness has gone quiet or tense.
- The same argument keeps coming back, and it never lands anywhere new.
- Or you’re single again after a breakup, a divorce, or a long pause, and you want to do it differently this time.
- Either way, you’re tired of showing up to intimacy as the version of yourself that manages, performs, or disappears.
- And underneath it all, you want more: more pleasure, more aliveness. You’re done apologizing for wanting it.
Why people choose me
Practical. Embodied. Unapologetically sensual.
Your truth, not mine
I’m not here to hand you a belief system. I help you get clear enough to find what’s true for you right now, beyond your conditioning, beyond the culture around you, and beyond me.
Conversations that land
A big part of my work is teaching people how to talk to each other: how to ask, how to hear a no, and how to move through conflict and find your way back to love.
Body-based, not abstract
We work with real sensation: what turns you on, what shuts you down, and what your body knows before your mind catches up.
Honest, with heat
I’ll tell you the truth, with care, and we’ll keep it playful. Desire shouldn’t feel like homework.
The method
From performing to feeling
Know yourself first. Then become your own best advocate, in bed, in love, and in the moments you choose to speak.
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We start with your body
What’s shutting you down? What’s in the way of feeling? Through breath, sound, and movement, you practice noticing your body, your sensations, and yourself, right as they happen.
02
We meet what’s in the way
I hold your hand as you meet the parts of yourself that scare you, that you’d rather not look at, or that you learned to hide. As old patterns, stories, and shame loosen their grip, you come home to your wholeness, which was never actually missing.
03
We build your language
We map what you actually want, then find words for your desires and your limits, so you can speak up with your partner or partners without over-explaining or apologizing.
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We integrate it into your life
Tools you’ll actually use at home: the Wheel of Consent®, NVC, RBDSMA, and tantra-informed practices, so pleasure and presence become part of everyday life.
Two doorways
Coaching for you, or for the two+ of you
Bring the heat and the honesty back
Mismatched desire, sex that’s gone quiet, the argument you keep circling. Or things are already good and you want to charge them up. You’ll learn to talk to each other in a way that brings you closer, even when it’s hard.
Couples & partners
Pleasure is a compass. Boundaries are an act of love.
What I believe
kind words
“I thought I knew how to touch… until Jade invited me to feel what it was like to touch for my own pleasure.”Ariana, workshop participant
I feel like a totally different person after our sessions. I feel much more at peace, centered, and safe in my own skin.
1:1 coaching client
I feel like a veil has been lifted as I form a better relationship with my body and how it informs my emotions.
Marti, individual client
Jade’s curious and compassionate energy offered a relaxed space for me to go to some previously unexplored places and expand my perspective on pleasure.
Leigh, individual client
More ways in
Start gently, or come play in a group
Understanding Your Desire Language
Five days, five simple practices to reconnect with your body’s wisdom and find words for what you want.
Get the free seriesLive workshops
Embodied practice in a group. The Wheel of Consent® Weekend Immersion returns to Boulder in January 2027.
See workshopsBring me to your event
Wheel of Consent® and embodied intimacy workshops for retreats, festivals, communities, and teams, from 60-minute tasters to weekend immersions.
Host a workshop
meet Jade
My body was never the problem. Yours isn’t either.
I created this work because I spent years thinking something was wrong with me. I couldn’t name what I wanted. I thought I should just know how my body worked. I’d go quiet in intimate moments, say yes when I meant maybe, or find myself disconnected even when I was trying to be present.
Then I learned something that changed everything: I hadn’t lost anything. I’d just forgotten how to speak my body’s language. Now I teach others to remember.
Letters from the body
Short letters on desire, boundaries, and listening
Honest, grounded writing on intimacy that actually feels good. Delivered sparingly.
Subscribe on Substack- September 29, 2026 ↗
The Girl With the Side Bangs
I spent twenty years exiling the teenager I used to be before deciding it was time to go back for her.
- June 16, 2026 ↗
The Cost of Self Abandonment
On self-abandonment, authentic desire, and the radical act of knowing what you want
- April 16, 2026 ↗
A Love Letter to Luteal
For every woman who was taught to see her cycle as the enemy
RBDSMA: the conversation before intimacy
Six things to talk about before any kind of closeness, with real phrases you can borrow. A framework I learned and now teach to every client.
Read the guide
begin where you are
Let’s find out what your body already knows.
Start with a free 30-minute call. Tell me what you’re longing for, ask me anything, and we’ll both get a feel for whether this is the right fit.