1:1 Somatic Intimacy. Coaching
For people ready to stop guessing and start listening to themselves.
Most people who find their way here aren't in crisis. They love their partner. Life is full. But somewhere underneath all of it, something has gone quiet; desire, presence, the ability to ask for what they actually want. They've been managing intimacy instead of having it. That's where we start. Not with what's broken, but with what's been muted.
The work moves in a natural sequence. First, we look at what's happening in your nervous system; what's contracting you, what's keeping you from being present, what old patterns are running the show. Then we move into your relationship with your own body: what turns you on, what shuts you down, what you've never given yourself space to explore. From there, we bring it into relationship; how you communicate desire, how you stop guessing and start asking.
There's no protocol here. We work with what's alive. That's not vagueness, it's the actual method. Every session starts where you are right now, not where you were two weeks ago or where you think you should be.
How it works
SESSION LENGTH
90 minutes
FORMAT
Individuals meet one-on-one. Couples can work jointly, individually, or in an alternating structure, we figure out what serves you best.
DURATION
Most people work with me for three to seven months. Some things shift quickly. Some take longer. I'll always be honest about what I'm seeing.
CONFIDENTIALITY
Everything we discuss, in discovery calls and in sessions stays between us.
FREQUENCY
Weekly or biweekly, at least to start
LOCATION
Virtually worldwide, or in person at my private office in Boulder, CO
INVESTMENT
I work in packages rather than single sessions. Sliding scale options are available, and payment plans can be discussed. Pricing is something we talk through on your discovery call so we can figure out what actually works for you.
For Individuals
Becoming more fluent in the one you already are.
People come to this work for all kinds of reasons. Some are navigating a particular moment; a rupture, a transition, a desire they can't name yet. Others are done with patterns they've outgrown and want to do something different before they can fully articulate what that looks like.
What happens in sessions depends entirely on you. Some sessions are conversation, tracing something back to its source, finding words for what you've never said out loud. Some involve somatic practice, breathwork, or visualization. Some go into guided self-exploration. I'll always tell you where we're headed before we go there.
What we work on together tends to include some combination of:
Your body and nervous system
Learning to recognize what's actually happening in you, not what you think should be happening. Expanding your capacity for pleasure and presence at the pace your system can actually hold. Addressing freeze responses, shame patterns, and protective habits that made sense once and don't anymore.
Your voice
Practicing real conversations: about boundaries, about needs, about what's not working. The Wheel of Consent, Nonviolent Communication, and other frameworks become less like theory and more like something you actually use.
Your desire
Getting clear on what you actually want, not borrowed from a past partner, not inherited from culture. Finding language for it that's honest and specific. Learning to ask for what you want without apologizing, and to say no without over-explaining.
Your integration
Making this real in your daily life, your relationships, and the quiet moments when you're deciding whether to speak or disappear.
This is not about becoming a different person. It's about becoming more fluent in the one you already are.
Your body already knows.
Let's slow down and listen for what's true.
For Couples
If something between you has gone quiet, it's waiting to be spoken.
Couples come to this work at all kinds of junctures. Sometimes there's been a rupture and you're trying to find your way back. Sometimes nothing is catastrophically wrong, but something has quietly gone flat and you don't know how to find each other again. Sometimes you're about to make a major transition and want to do it with more skill than your parents did.
A lot of people reach out when only one of them is fully ready. That's fine, it's actually one of the most common ways this starts. You don't both have to be in the same place to begin.
Whatever brings you here, we start with the two of you as you actually are. We build a shared language for what you each want and need. We work with the nervous system dynamics between you, the way you process differently, the way you move at different speeds, the way that gap creates its own kind of friction. We slow things down enough to stop reacting and start choosing.
What couples typically work on:
Communication that reaches
Learning to speak about needs, desire, and disappointment in ways that land, not as attacks, not as withdrawals, but as honest bids for connection. NVC and the Wheel of Consent give couples a shared vocabulary that stops the same fight from recurring.
Repair & trust
Whether you're recovering from a specific breach or a slow erosion, we build structures for accountability, for apology that actually lands, and for the kind of repair that leaves you closer than before.
Desire & intimacy
Mismatched libido, avoidance, disconnection, sexual patterns you've never talked about. This is safe territory here. We approach it slowly, with curiosity rather than pressure.
Agreements & vision
Clarifying what you're building together. Shared values, relationship agreements, rituals of connection that hold you through the hard seasons.
If something between you has gone quiet, it doesn't mean it's gone. It usually means it's waiting to be spoken.
If you're craving deeper connection, clearer communication, or a new chapter, you're not alone.
Every part of you belongs here
Every part of you is welcome; every love structure, identity, orientation, and expression of desire. This work is trauma-informed and paced by your nervous system, not my agenda.
I work at the intersection of the practical and the embodied. Breathwork, somatic practice, journaling, and real-life conversation tools, not because they're interesting in theory, but because they work when you're in the middle of a hard moment and need something to reach for.
The promise: we tell the truth about where you are, get clear on where you want to go, and build real capacity to get there. With accountability, presence, and no performance required.
Frequently Asked
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Individuals and couples of all genders, orientations, and relationship structures. You’re welcome here if you’re curious, coachable, and ready to take responsibility for your experience. (18+ for 1:1 work.)
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Only as much as you want. We can focus on communication, boundaries, desire, conflict repair, or body reconnection without explicit sexual content. Your pace sets the pace.
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Common outcomes include clearer communication, stronger boundaries, revived desire, fewer shutdowns and blow-ups, and a steadier nervous system.
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Sessions are typically 90 minutes. I work worldwide via video and in person in Boulder/Denver on select days.
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Come as you are. Wear something comfortable, be somewhere private, and bring a notebook/water. If we’re on video, headphones help. Please avoid alcohol or substances beforehand.
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Absolutely. We can alternate solo and joint sessions or work as a unit, depending on what’s most supportive.
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Everything we discuss is confidential. If there’s imminent risk of harm to you or someone else, I may need to seek appropriate support. I’m not a mandated reporter in a clinical role, but safety comes first.
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Life happens. Please give 48 hours’ notice to reschedule; late cancellations or no-shows are charged in full so I can hold strong containers for everyone.
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Yes. Short, doable practices (breathwork, journaling, micro-conversations, pleasure mapping, boundary reps). Tiny and consistent beats heroic and rare.
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Beautiful. You’re alive! Nerves mean you care. We’ll go at the speed of your body, not your ambition.
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Book a 30-minute discovery call. We’ll feel for fit, name your goals, and choose the right package. If I’m not the person, I’ll point you to someone who is.
Not sure yet?
Start with the free 5-day series, Understanding Your Desire Language, five short practices for learning what your body is actually saying. No commitment, no pressure. Just a quieter kind of listening.