The better you know yourself, the more fully you can be known. That's the work.
Private coaching for individuals & couples
How it works
SESSION LENGTH
90 minutes. Sixty-minute sessions available on request.
FORMAT
Individuals meet one-on-one. Couples can work jointly, individually, or in an alternating structure. We figure out what serves you best.
IN SESSION
No fixed curriculum. You tell me what's going on and we start there. We move between talking and working in the body, checking in with sensation or using imagery as information about what's under the surface.
WHAT I DRAW FROM
The Wheel of Consent®, somatic therapy, and the VITA coaching framework, among other things. Hands-on somatic work is available for clients who want it and for whom it's the right fit.
BETWEEN SESSIONS
Specific practices to take into your life, offered as invitations.
WHO IT’S FOR
All relationship structures, genders, and sexual orientations.
FREQUENCY
Weekly or biweekly. You decide the rhythm as we go.
BOOKING
Booked one session at a time.
LOCATION
Virtually worldwide, or in person at my private office in Boulder, CO.
CONFIDENTIALITY
Everything shared in our sessions is held in complete confidentiality.
INVESTMENT
Individual sessions $250, couples $300, for 90 minutes. A small number of reduced-rate places are available. If cost is what stands between you and this work, tell me on the discovery call. You won't need to explain or document anything.
For Individuals
Most of us have a long, well-rehearsed list of reasons why we don't say what we want out loud. What if I come off as too much? What if I'm misunderstood? What if they leave? What if I actually get what I want? I know that list well. I've spent years working my way down it.
People find their way here from a lot of different places. Some have been trying to find their person for years and can't figure out what keeps getting in the way. Some have had pain around sex, physically or emotionally. Some are in the middle of a breakup, or just through one, and feel something cracked open that they don't want to close back up. Some are in a period of real change and sense that the old version of themselves in relationship no longer fits. Some have never known what they want. Some know exactly what they want and have never been able to ask for it.
What my clients share is a willingness to look inward and get curious about themselves, maybe for the first time in a long time.
Many of us have never had a space where being fully seen felt possible. If that's what you're longing for, we build the conditions for it here, starting with you.
In our sessions, you'll develop a real relationship with your own desire, uncovering what is genuinely true for you right now, entirely separate from external expectations, past partnerships, or cultural scripts. Then you'll practice revealing your insides to the outside world.
I pay close attention to what your body is already communicating, because our nervous systems hold information our thoughts haven't reached yet.
You'll get a lot of care from me. You'll also get the truth. Clients tell me I get to the crux of a thing fast, and that I'll call them out with love when they need it.
There's plenty I'm still figuring out, by myself and with my partner. I have my own therapist and my own mentors. I won't ask you to go anywhere I haven't been willing to go myself.
For Couples
I believe knots tied in relationship can only be untied in connection.
Most couples come to me to bridge the gap between how much they love each other and how little they've actually felt comfortable revealing, or being truly known.
Many arrive with what looks like a sexual problem: a mismatch in desire, a shift in physical pleasure, a growing distance from each other, or expectations around sex that have never quite matched up. After working with hundreds of people, what I've noticed is that often underneath all of it is something more foundational: a want that remained unspoken, or a deep belief that keeping silent was the safest choice.
Without knowing what we truly want, we can't ask for it. And without being able to ask for it, we end up compromising, diluting, and settling. We deserve more than that.
I create the space where you and your partner can slow down, know yourselves more honestly, and bring that honesty into contact with each other. You'll practice asking clearly for what you want, and owning that you want it. Together you'll build shared language for desires and for limits, and use it to have the conversations you've been circling.
Taking a fine-tooth comb to your relationship can be uncomfortable. You don't have to untangle it alone.
Only one of you is ready. That's a fine place to start.
Sometimes one person gets here first. Individual sessions are a place to develop your own language, to practice saying true things out loud before you bring them into your relationship.
Many clients start on their own and invite their partner in later. Others do it entirely for themselves and find it changes what's possible in relationship regardless.
If you're not sure where to begin, the discovery call is where we figure that out.
Not sure yet?
Start with the free 5-day series, Understanding Your Desire Language, five short practices for learning what your body is actually saying. No commitment, no pressure. Just a quieter kind of listening.